Happily Married (Romance and Passion) Chapter 1

Happily Married

We are all born for love. It is the principle of existence, and its only end. - Benjamin Disraeli

Reminisce…..

When was the last time you and your spouse went on a first date? Think. Was it a long,

long time ago? Come on think. You have to remember. True to many people that they had

butterflies in the stomach during the proverbial first date.

Alex and Nina are happily married for the past 26 years. Their first date happened 28

years ago. It was a simple dinner date on their favorite restaurant. Nina recalled that she

was very nervous. She stayed in the mirror for two long hours checking for stray hair or

crumpled dress. Her heart was beating so fast. After so many years she still feels quite

nervous every time her husband asks her out.

Did you get a little nervous? Or anxious? Ever wonder why? I suppose your heart was

beating faster, making a faint throb on your chest. You got nervous because you wanted to

make sure that everything would turn out right. The date itself was important to you. You

wanted it to be perfect.

Belle happily married for the past 13 years, stammers when she is nervous. She’s also clumsy. Don asked her out for the first time to dine. She agreed. There on the restaurant happened the most unforgettable scene in her life. While they’re having dinner, she noticed that her hands were shaking violently. She tried to stay calm, but she can’t. She then decided to go to the restroom in the middle of the dinner. To her haste, her heels got caught in the lacy tablecloth. The moments she stepped forward, the tablecloth and the rest of the food on top of it moved with her. The food was on the floor and the dinner was a complete mess. Don just looked at her in awe.

Prior to the date, you checked on things that you’ll need. You ransacked your closet. You

looked for an outfit that seems to fit the event. A couple of hours before the big event, you

took all your time in front of the mirror. “Did I forget something? Is everything in order

now?” you asked yourself. Then you smiled. Now you’re ready.

You looked on your date. He or she was fantastic. You wish he or she also felt the same

way for you. The waiter took you to the table you reserved. You can’t think. You don’t

know what to do. You just stared at your date. You exchanged meaningful glances. You

were brought back to your senses when the waiter asked for your order. You smiled again.

You noticed that the nervousness was slowly fading away. You then felt more comfortable

to strike a conversation.

Charlotte is a very shy girl. She doesn’t usually engage herself in chatter. But Brad has

made an exception. Whenever he and Charlotte are together, he persuades Charlotte to

express herself. After a series of dating, Charlotte’s friends and relatives are shocked to

see her as a chatterer.

The meal was served. You both enjoyed the meal, and most especially the company. You

asked for a walk after dinner. You head to a nearest beach. There, in the stillness of the

night and sea, you learned more about each other. The wind played with your hair as you

go deep into a conversation.

After a couple of minutes walking, you got tired and decided to sit down on the sand. The

two of you became quiet, relishing the moment. Happiness was in the air. You hesitated to

break the silence, but then you know that you had to voice out what you feel. You told him

or her that you had a great time.

to be continued in the next article :)

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Happily Married - 3 Tips on how to stay in a happy marriage

Contrary to what is depicted in many shows and movies lately, marriage is not disposable. You can not just go and decide to divorce at the moment does not work. It just does not work that way and you will never see the wedding because you will end up with a bad attitude towards her.
Marriage is a serious commitment, and therefore, it requires a lot of hard work for you to make it work. Before jumping into the pool wedding, think about a million times. It is a hard truth, but married life is not for everyone. If you think you just married your partner because he said it was that or break, then you might be in a lot of problems right now.
Marry for all the wrong reasons, one of the greatest is love and commitment. You must be willing to be able to get through the tough times when you get to this stage of their marriage, because believe me, it will happen. The best you can do is be ready for it and hope for the best.
If you're going through this difficult period at the moment so I feel for you. But do not get discouraged and do not consider divorce, even if your partner is.This is what you can do on how to stop a divorce from happening:
1. Speak.Many marriages fail or disintegrate because the couple can not reach. I can not even begin to emphasize the importance of communication, because it is the key to everything. If you have a problem with something your spouse does, talk. If you heard something through the grapevine, and then open it with your spouse. Do not keep it to yourself because you just hold things worse. This takes you to more questions than ever to find answers if you decide to talk to your spouse.
2. Remember the good times.If you are currently aware of the struggles and sleep in the middle of arguments in the evening, then things may feel they are not worth it. Nobody wants to live in a world that seems to be at war. But I understand that this is just a phase and like all phases, will pass. These difficult times are inevitable in marriage. You can not expect everything to be happy forever, right? So when you are at the moment, look back and remember the good times. Remember the happy times we spent with them and get out of this, understand that after this period, you will the good times with your spouse.
3. Divorce is not an option.It is important to keep this thought in your head and your significant other. Many couples who are experiencing difficult times immediately rush to the conclusion that things can not be fixed over so quickly give up and start processing the documents to dissolve the marriage. Even before the head this way or if you plan to go there to stop. Remember that vows made on their wedding day. The two of you are in this area, for better or for worse. This is the worst but better times will come again.
Trying to calm the game at a difficult time in their marriage is difficult. The only thing you should keep in mind that at this time all will be forgotten over time and you'll be glad you stuck to your marriage at the time was most needed.

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How to predict a happy marriage

Over the last two decades, researchers have studied the ingredients in marriage a happy marriage. As a result, we know more about building a successful marriage than ever before. For example, the happily married couples have:
Expectations healthy marriageRealistic loveA positive attitude towards life and outlookThe ability to communicate their feelingsUnderstanding and acceptance of gender affectedThe ability to make decisions and resolve disagreementsA common spiritual foundation and purposeEach couple must consider these issues before marriage. Take the time to understand these issues, it is like investing in an insurance policy against divorce.
I learned to live happily ever after is a mystery unless the mastery of certain skills. Although married life will always have its difficulties, is steadily and significantly improve your relationship with the field of life skills some.
Many couples mistakenly blame the family policy, money and sex breaks and marital dissatisfaction. However, hot spots in marriage in general the result of communication, lack of sex and spiritual health.
Most relationships begin with a honeymoon emotional, a moment of intense and passionate romance. But this novel is always temporary. In The Road Less Traveled, Dr. Scott Peck says that "no matter who you fall in love with, that sooner or later fall in love, if the relationship continues long enough." This does not mean that we cease love our spouse. Which means that the feeling of ecstatic love that characterizes the experience of falling in love always happens. "the honeymoon always ends," he said. "the flower of love always fane "
It is an illusion that romance in the beginning of a relationship that will last forever. This can be difficult to swallow, but debunk the myth of the eternal love that will do anything to help you build a happy marriage for life.

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Staying Happily Married Is Not Easy

You may have encountered serious difficulties in their marriage, or simply could rekindle the romance in a relationship. The good news is that you do not want to settle for - you can rebuild your marriage, and a good start on the road to building a lifelong love!Read on - and find important keys to a happy marriage that will last a lifetime!In order to maintain a happy marriage lines of communication should always be open. If this is true for any relationship, it is essential in marriage. In almost every marriage began to deteriorate, the lack of communication is one of the main factors.One of the best ways to solve this problem is to go back to basics - the beginning! The problem was poor communication all the time, or is it something that started at some point in time? When you communicate with your spouse?Believe it or not, most communication problems relationship began long before the couple married. Think again and is likely to remember the time you and your future spouse sit for hours not actually communicate. So why this marriage different?Most married couples have never discussed or revealed their true feelings. They are usually on their best behavior and I think that "love conquers all". Their partners during sex never express anything they find boring or against their true convictions. This marriage later, can lead to a sense of abandonment or dissatisfaction at the bottom right in the relationship.It is always better to express your feelings about anything that makes you feel uncomfortable during courtship. Establish a line of communication that will continue and that their marital relationship stronger. Remember that there is no true happiness sustainable communication. Say what you think or feel, always taking into account the feelings associated with it. Respect and consideration are key.So what kind of problems can occur in marriage? Ignoring changes in the behavior of your spouse, now is the time to do all the questions above questions. "What's wrong?" Never allow significant changes in your marriage to continue. Once these problems can become bigger and more serious. Disagreements, arguments on factors such as money, jobs, children and others can lead to you and your spouse are considering a separation - or, worse, a divorce?These and most other factors that can cause a conjugal relationship to crumble, can be solved. You can begin to put their marriage back together, rebuild both the joy experienced at first, and use both the initial joy and experiences ripe for marriage stronger and happier than ever!Remember, the key to a lasting marriage is communication!

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